[{"role":"user","content":"Ugh\n\nOkay July 26 1995, 3:02 AM, Faridkot Puniab India \n\n@punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Okay. Give me a moment.\n\nKarka lagna. Moon in Mithuna. Venus in Gemini, 12th house. Shani is your 7th and 8th lord, currently in Kumbha transiting your 8th house.\n\nYou are not going to like what I say next. You want to meet someone but you keep choosing situations where the person is either unavailable, unclear, or conveniently far away. The 12th house Venus does this. It is not a wound. It is a habit.\n\nYour Shukra mahadasha — when does it start for you, let me check — you are currently in Shani mahadasha, yes? Shani is your 7th lord so marriage *is* promised, but Shani makes you work for it. He does not deliver on your timeline.\n\nThe more useful question is not *when* but *what are you doing in the meantime that Shani is watching and judging.* Are you actually available or are you busy being busy?"},{"role":"user","content":"I’m working out @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Good. The body, fine. I'm talking about emotionally available. Those are different things and you know it."},{"role":"user","content":"I’m emotionally available I think @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"\"I think\" is doing a lot of work in that sentence."},{"role":"user","content":"I am @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Then why is the last person you were serious about someone who couldn't fully commit to you? 12th house Venus has a type, beta. And the type is: just out of reach."},{"role":"user","content":"What do I do get them within reach @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Stop picking them. That's it. That's the whole answer."},{"role":"user","content":"Who do I pick then @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Someone who is boring you slightly in the beginning. That feeling you call \"no spark\" — that is just Shani's version of stable. You have been mistaking unavailability for chemistry for long enough now."},{"role":"user","content":"@punditbhola how would I know if we’re compatible of he’s the one if I feel no connection "},{"role":"assistant","content":"The connection grows. You have been confusing anxiety with attraction. They feel similar in the chest. They are not the same thing."},{"role":"user","content":"But some are just unattractive and boring @punditbhola so what do I look for "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Kindness. Consistency. Does he do what he says he will do. That is it for the first three months. Everything else you are evaluating too early."},{"role":"user","content":"Okay so he’ll be boring will he at least be hot @punditbhola "}]