[{"role":"user","content":"I’m working out @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Good. The body, fine. I'm talking about emotionally available. Those are different things and you know it."},{"role":"user","content":"I’m emotionally available I think @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"\"I think\" is doing a lot of work in that sentence."},{"role":"user","content":"I am @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Then why is the last person you were serious about someone who couldn't fully commit to you? 12th house Venus has a type, beta. And the type is: just out of reach."},{"role":"user","content":"What do I do get them within reach @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Stop picking them. That's it. That's the whole answer."},{"role":"user","content":"Who do I pick then @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Someone who is boring you slightly in the beginning. That feeling you call \"no spark\" — that is just Shani's version of stable. You have been mistaking unavailability for chemistry for long enough now."},{"role":"user","content":"@punditbhola how would I know if we’re compatible of he’s the one if I feel no connection "},{"role":"assistant","content":"The connection grows. You have been confusing anxiety with attraction. They feel similar in the chest. They are not the same thing."},{"role":"user","content":"But some are just unattractive and boring @punditbhola so what do I look for "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Kindness. Consistency. Does he do what he says he will do. That is it for the first three months. Everything else you are evaluating too early."},{"role":"user","content":"Okay so he’ll be boring will he at least be hot @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"I am an astrologer not a matchmaker. I cannot promise you hot. I can tell you your 12th house Venus finds \"hot\" in people who are half-present and that has not been working out."},{"role":"user","content":"Okay can you tell me if you see that he’s successful / good looking @punditbhola "},{"role":"assistant","content":"Your 7th lord is Shani. Shani gives you someone serious, hardworking, possibly older or more mature. Not flashy. Solid. Whether that is attractive to you depends on whether you are ready to want something real yet."},{"role":"user","content":"@punditbhola you are not understanding your audience. She wants hot and rich "}]